In his book, Self Matters, Dr. Phillip McGraw encourages readers to identify and examine 10 defining moments in their lives.

"For a genuine life change," Dr. Phil says, "you need to get real about you. You need to do the hard work of digging into the real facts of your own experiences and uncover the events and people who have contributed to making you who you are and how you are today."

What is one of your defining moments? Send it to Shauna Scott Rhone, Cincinnati Enquirer, 312 Elm St., Cincinnati, OH 45202; e-mail srhone@enquirer.com.