By Samantha Critchell
The Associated Press

Business travelers might be faced with long lines at airports, mediocre hotel food and lonely nights, but what about the family they leave behind?

There likely is double-duty for the other parent or caregiver, and children are forced to change their routines while realizing that they miss the morning kiss from Mom or Dad more than they thought they would.

Making it easier

A business trip means adjustments for the whole household, but different doesn't have to mean difficult.

"It does make me sad to travel," says Dan Verdick, a sales and marketing director for a publishing company outside St. Paul, Minn. He hits the road about three times a month, each trip lasting two or three days.

He says, though, that travel has become more palatable for both him and his family because he has learned to plan ahead and to get the whole family interested in what he's doing and where he is going.

Verdick, who has a 6-year-old daughter and 2-year-old son, put his suggestions for better business travel into The Business Traveling Parent: How to Stay Close to Your Kids When You're Far Away (Robins Lane Press; $14.95).

"I really try to think of things from my children's perspective and how it will affect them," Verdick says.

Before he leaves, Verdick puts together a detailed itinerary and might ask for one back from his daughter (his son's not old enough) that will highlight her class schedule and after-school plans so they'll both always know what the other is doing.

He also uses this opportunity for a geography lesson. "I make the most of the situation by teaching my daughter how to read a map, and then I'll correspond by mail or e-mail, talk on the phone and have conversations about what I'm seeing," Verdick says.

He also makes an effort to be a part of what's going on in the kids' daily life, even if it's from a distance. Verdick's daughter was learning cursive writing as he left on one recent trip, so he sent all of his written correspondence to her in cursive.

When her now 16- and 19-year-old children were younger, Miriam Arond, editor in chief of Child magazine, would leave notes around the house for her children to discover after she left. They'd be simple one-liners, such as "Have a good day" or "I love you."

Bedtime is a particularly vulnerable time for children because it's the point of the day when routine is the most important, and because the quiet of the night can leave kids feeling lonely or sad, says Arond.

"Maybe just before bed is the best time to call home," she suggests.

Cell phones and personal digital assistants make it possible to check in a few times a day. However, Arond cautions about overuse of these instant connections. "You don't want to make children too dependent on us (parents). You want to make yourself available but with limited access, so they'll work out some things on their own."

Beware of signals

When parents do phone home, and before and after the trip, they should be mindful of what signals they convey about business travel.

If parents complain or seem stressed, the children will pick up on it and soon they'll be complaining and be stressed, Arond says.

"Be very matter-of-fact about travel; it's just like a parent going to work every day," she says.

Of course, a gift always helps to lift children's spirits, but a gift that is too extravagant is a sign from parents that they've done something wrong and are trying to make it up to the kids, according to Arond.